Pediatrician Problems

Nick and I are not impressed with the pediatrician we chose for Neacel. The doctor came highly recommended from a few friends so we decided to stick with him. We should have seen a problem with him and the office staff before but we didn't know what we were looking for. We are completely new to this!

Our first visit was a meeting Dr. Hurley. This should have been a HUGE red flag but we shrugged it off. We were meeting with him just to talk and get to know him. He, for some odd reason, didn't know we were coming! We had an appointment at 5:30 and he had a patient to see at 6. He showed up close to 6 and the conversation was very brief and quick. He had a patient to get to and well I guess that was slightly more important. Nick and I left saying he seemed nice and since he has been recommended to us by several people we would stick with him.

At the birth, he never showed! The doctor didn't come to see Neacel till Friday afternoon and said that the people at the hospital never contacted him. My nurse Martha said they had called a few times and apparently he never got the message. That was the last time the doctor saw Neacel. The rest of my hospital stay we were seeing other pediatricians in the same office. I understand that people get time off but you can't come to the hospital for 15 minutes to check on my little boy? I wouldn't have to see a different doctor if I came to your office. We talked to him a little while he was there the one day and everything was fine. But the whole time I kinda felt that he looked down on us, like we were too young to be parents and have no idea what we are doing.

Today, was the 2 week check up. Neacel is now 9lbs and 6oz! I had an appointment at 11:20 this morning and received a call a little after 9:30 saying that they needed me to come in before 11 because Dr. Hurley didn't realize he had to do a circumcision and that he was a little over booked! Why aren't the office staff watching how they book appointments and how come my doctor for the second time now didn't know something? I showed up around 11:10, I made an appointment and if they can't keep track of things and whats going on oh well, that's their problem not mine! So the doctor was asking questions about how he is eating, sleeping, activity, etc. I answered everything but he still would just give me this dumb-founded look, so I would then have to explain myself. I didn't see why I needed to explain that he sleeps a ton (3-4 hours), eats a ton (4oz+ each time he eats) and is very active and happy! He wanted to know "exacts", like how many hours between each feeding, when he is looking around does he look at Nick and I and stare, how many ounces he is eating exactly, etc. I don't keep a chart marking everything down, call me a bad mom but I don't see the need for it. I'm not going to write down what every dirty diaper was like and how many ounces he ate. I pay attention and can give you pretty accurate information. Again, I feel that he is totally looking down on me and how I'm raising my child.

We got the circumcision done and he is explaining everything to me like I'm 16! I know that its a cosmetic procedure, and I know what it entails, please don't talk to me like I'm 16 and some stupid teenager! Then when I decided to stay in the room he looked at me in shock, sorry I want to be there for my little boy while he is screaming and crying! I left the office not in the best mood and a little disappointed but again I shrugged it off! When I got home I called Nick and told him a little, and then Nick reminded me that Dr. Hurley told us in the hospital that at Neacel's 2 week check up we would do immunizations. Guess what? They didn't! Didn't even mention it but they took his charts and everything and saw that it hadn't been done at that point.

Nick and I are going to find a different doctor. We aren't impressed with him or the staff, but how do we know which doctor is right? I want that perfect doctor that seems to love his job and adores children. One where the office and rooms are bright colors and totally just for kids and where the doctor and the staff are just friendly and greet you as soon as you walk in the door! How do we go about finding that perfect doctor? When we go to meet a pediatrician what are somethings we should ask and look for? Any recommendations for doctors in the area? We just want someone that we like and one that doesn't forget about us! And of course, totally kid friendly!

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The jaundice is gone!

Doesn't he look like a little bug? Neacel was in the Bili bed for two nights and we hated every minute of it. Getting up every hour to check on him and make sure his eye patch things were still on and that he wasn't getting too hot, was awful. I was so happy to get the phone call saying that we could take him out of the bed. It was complete torture to have him in there. I can't just let him cry but I had to, there was nothing that we could do. Him being out of the bed has been a HUGE blessing. I can actually sleep at night now and he seems much happier! Before I would stay up all night with him and make sure everything was OK and then maybe get a hour or two once Nick got up. I would try and nap throughout the day but I just couldn't.

We gave Neacel his first bath here at home and he wasn't too thrilled about it! We had heard that some babies like baths because it reminds them of being in the womb. Well, he hates it and I'm guessing its because there wasn't any room in the womb for him so it could be slightly upsetting! He just screamed and cried the whole time. Nick and I felt bad but there was nothing we could do. Nick would put his Binky in his mouth and he would get quiet for a minute and then just start screaming again. Poor thing!

Here he is after his bath in his little ducky robe. I think its too cute. He still wasn't happy because he was cold and I was putting lotion on him. His skin is so dry on his hands and feet. I put lotion on them a few times a day but nothing is helping. The robe is also pretty big on him but most things are.

After a nice big bottle and getting some PJ's on he is happy and sound asleep! I love these little dino PJ's. I found them at Kid to Kid months ago and just had to have them for him. They are slightly big but oh well; that just means he can wear them a lot longer!!! Also, don't you just love his hair! The kid has tons of it! I was trying to get it to go in a mohawk but everything just stands straight up so instead it kind of just looks like a mess! I think this is just the cutest picture of him! We are totally obsessed with him.

He is growing a ton and looking more like Nick every day. We pulled out Nick's baby book and I swear to you, they are twins.

He is eating a ton, about 3-4oz every 2 hours. He is always hungry! He would eat more easily, but we aren't letting him till I talk to the doctor on Wednesday for his 2 week check up. When he is "starving" he shakes his head (like saying NO) while crying a little and snorts like a pig! It's cute in a pathetic kind of way! Almost like he is freaking out trying to find the bottle which we have already put in his mouth. He is being bottle fed which I really didn't want, but he won't latch on and my milk still hasn't come in. Nick thinks he won't latch on because he wants tons of food quickly (he drinks his bottle within minutes!) and well, things just don't work that way. He doesn't want to work for his food, he got spoiled while he was in my tummy, I guess the room service was a little too nice!

Sound asleep and ready for the BYU vs. UofU game. He and I ended up staying home, I had too much to get done around the house and he was really fussy. I didn't want to attempt going somewhere and him freaking out the whole time. It's a good thing we stayed home too. BYU lost, sorry Nick maybe next year! Nick was also a little hurt because Neacel decided to pee on his onsie and we all know how Nick feels about BYU and the Jazz, going potty on the onsie isn't allowed!

Neacel Parker Burt

I guess 3rd time is a charm!

So as you know last Monday I thought I was in labor. Wednesday I thought I was again. Around midnight my contractions were 4 minutes apart, so off to the hospital we go. After walking around for an hour and only being dilated to a 3, I was sent home with morphine and phenegren. We stopped at Sconecutter because it was 2:30 in the morning and I was hungry and in pain. Nick is just the best husband ever!

After coming home and going to bed, I woke up in the worst pain I ever thought imaginable just a few hours later. I remember laying there crying and saying "I don't want this, I don't want to do this anymore" I couldn't walk, talk or breathe through my contractions and they were one after another. There was no time to recover. Poor Nick because I woke him up out of a dead sleep was scared and panicking.

We went to the hospital sometime between 7am and 8am Thursday morning. We told the nurse that it was our third time there and that we didn't want to get sent home again. Luckily, they kept me. I was given my epidural within an hour and didn't feel another thing. I was dilating slower then normal, only a cm every hour and a half. The doctor and nurse were saying that Neacel would be here by 3pm! Around 3 I was still in labor, and needed another epidural. I love epidurals. At 4 is when things took a turn we weren't expecting. I was dilated to a 8, they mentioned I might need a c section but that we would wait and see. 5pm still an 8, 6pm still a solid 8cm! Shortly before 7 the doctor came in to check me again and I was still an 8. C section was the plan now and happening shortly. I was rolled into surgery around 7:20 and Neacel Parker Burt was born at 7:33pm! I look back and feel horrible because I was falling asleep during surgery and took one glance at Neacel and then started to doze off again. I should have tried to stay awake but I was so drugged up I couldn't keep my eyes open.

Nick in his super cool outfit that he got to wear in the O.R.

Neacel Parker Burt
8lbs 14 oz 22inches

Sweet baby boy

Proud daddy and son
Our first family photo

Neacel is now 6 days old and I love him more and more each day! We have come to agree that he has my nose and lips and sleeps like me, but everything else is Nick. He even has the little dimple! Nick and I would talk about what features we wanted him to have and from who. Our wishes were granted! Everything of Nick's that I wanted him to have he has and vice versa.
His jaundice got worse so last night and tonight he has to lay in one of those Bili Beds. Poor thing has to wear a net over his head so that we can cover his eyes, and I can only take him out to feed him or change his diaper. Tomorrow we will find out if he needs the bed for another night or not.

Poor thing laying in his bed, I hate it, but I know its helping him.

He does nothing but eat, sleep, fart, and make dirty diapers!

Welcome home!

I was trying to wake him up and I don't think he was to happy! He gives me so many different expressions, he is just to cute!

This picture just melts my heart. This is my little boy who I have waited so patiently to get here. I know its not the real smile but its just to darn cute! How can someone not love this face? A mother's love it a whole new overwhelming type of love!

We love you Neacel! Your everything we wanted and so much more. Love, Mommy and Daddy

Happy Anniversary!

Nick and I spent our one year anniversary in the hospital! Sunday night I started getting really bad menstrual like cramps and they weren't going away. I went to bed and everything was OK, wasn't perfect but I could sleep. Yesterday morning I got up and was still having those horrible pains. Nick told me to call the doctor and see what they said for me to do. So I called and they told me to get up to the hospital to get monitored and that it sounded like I was in labor. I didn't want to have him on our anniversary but we had to wait and see what was said when we got there.

So I went up to the hospital around 2 and the monitor wasn't picking up my contractions! I was getting so angry, I was feeling tons of sharp pains and the monitor couldn't pick that up? They checked me and they were saying I was about 2cm, so after about an hour and a half they asked me to walk around for an hour and they would check again. So we walked for an hour and then went back to the triage room. They checked me again and I was about 2+cm but my contractions were worse and happening about 2 minutes apart!

The nurse decided that she didn't know if I should stay or go home, so she went and talked to the doctor. The options were stay and they were going to induce me or go home and come back when I couldn't talk through my contractions. The doctor decided to send me home. So I left the hospital around 6, sadly. I was hoping so bad that they were just going to break my water, but nope! So we spent the majority of our anniversary waiting to find out if I was in labor or not. They concluded that I'm in the early stage of labor and they said (including Dr. Terry) that since I'm already having labor pains and everything else that I will have him before Friday. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

I felt horrible that we spent the day in the hospital. I was going to make a super yummy salmon dinner and we were thinking about walking around Temple Square. Instead, we had burgers at Wendy's, then picked up a few groceries at Walmart and came home. Oh, and it was raining so the walk around Temple Square turned into walking around Walmart!

I can't believe its been a year since Nick and I were married. I love him so much and I really couldn't ask for a better husband. He is everything I've always wanted and so much more. He is going to make a wonderful father and I can't wait to come home (from who knows where) and see him playing video games or something while taking care of Neacel. Which he will explain as "I was showing the game to him" or "He wanted to watch." He can always get me to smile and I love him so much for that. I love that he is simply just a big kid! I love him for being the shoulder for me to cry on and the person that will sit there and listen to all of my problems (that I make so much harder than what they really are). I don't tell him often enough how much I care and appriciate everything he does for me and our growing family. He makes sure that Neacel and I have everything we need before he thinks of himself. He is a wonderful husband and father.

The thought of being married to someone for eternity has always kind of scared me, but this year has been so much fun that now I know eternity is just going to be wonderful! I wouldn't want to spend it with any one else. I love you Nick always and forever!

Is this a Joke?

I had a doctors appointment yesterday and even though I've had some contractions they haven't changed a thing! He said that I'm pretty much as thinned out as I'm going to get but that I haven't dilated anymore! I was having strong contractions Wednesday that were 4 minutes apart for about 45 minutes, I was so excited thinking I was in labor.

I was trying to get a hold of Nick just so he would be ready to leave work but he had his phone on the "Do Not Disturb" mode or whatever, but then they just stopped and I haven't really felt anything since then. Good thing for Nick and I that I wasn't in labor. I didn't hear from him for a few hours!

Doctor is saying that if I don't dilate faster then chances are I'll go past my due date, which in my book is just not an option at this point! I was so excited to go in and hear that it's literally any day, even if I was only dilated to a 3, I would have been thrilled! I'm so emotional at this point and Nick is being such a strong support but both of us are ready to go insane with my emotions!

I'm ready to be done with this pregnancy and to just have my little boy in my arms. I'm dying to see what he looks like, more like me or more like Nick? How big he is, how much hair he has, what his cry sounds like, just all the unsolved little mysteries. I want to have dirty baby clothes to clean, and not just sitting in the drawers waiting for him. I want to rock him to sleep and just stare at him in complete amazement, knowing that this is what the Lord has blessed Nick and I with. I want to take pictures of him, bathe him and just carry him in my arms!

But for now I'll just keep waiting and pray that he will be here soon. That's pretty much all I can do at this point.